Sweet Sorrows (GUEST POST!)

Hey ladies, you’re in for a treat today! Rue is a friend of mine who is currently working on an article for a christian magazine. She also is the voice behind the travel blog “Walker Stalkers”
(Be sure to check it out after reading her post below! https://awalkerstalker.wordpress.com/).
The exciting news today is that YOU have the opportunity to help out, and get YOUR story heard! Want to know how? Keep reading below! 🙂 The rest of this article is written by Rue.

“Hello everyone! It’s so nice to meet you. Thanks again to the lovely Kristin for letting me guest post. I enjoy her thoughts on marriage and relationship and so of course she was the first person I thought of when I started hunting around for a blogger to help me with an article I’m working on. Which leads me to why I’m visiting you all today. I am working on an article for a Christian magazine on some of the ways in which marriage affects friendship, specifically female friendships, though I think these issues are not limited by gender. I have read a lot of articles on how marriage affects family relationships, but in my personal experience, getting married was harder on my friends than my family. As a single woman, I truly loved my engaged friends and wanted to be happy for them but sometimes to tell the honest truth (yikes!) I wasn’t happy at all. I was jealous and angry that they had this special experience I was completely left out of. Patiently waiting is difficult enough but at a certain age, single women start attending a whirlwind of bachelorette parties, bridal showers, weddings and baby showers that can make even the most patient person want to pull her hair out. I remember feeling like I was stuck in this waiting room, watching as one by one my friends disappeared behind a door into some unknown place. I couldn’t go until they called my name and so I just kept sitting in this horrible room waiting to be let out. Though I honestly tried as hard as I could to celebrate my friends, I often felt like my fake smile was fooling no one.

You can imagine then, when I became a fiancée myself, how sensitive I was to the issues my single friends might be facing. I could deeply empathize with their pain, but if I’m being honest again, I wanted to rejoice! I was so joyful over the amazing gift God had given me in my husband and all I wanted was to celebrate with my closest friends the good work the Lord had done. Along the way, we all made mistakes, but overall I think we derived a lot of comfort from Romans 12:15 “Rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn.” As I have gone on to struggle with fertility issues while many friends have given birth to their beautiful children, this verse has brought me incredible comfort and wisdom. I figured, if my friends and I were facing these issues, other people probably were too and so I started working on this article.

This is where YOU come in. I would love to hear about how your engagement affected your friendships personally or how you experience engagement or marriage as a single person. If you feel comfortable sharing your story, please email me at scaliRM@gmail.com and I will send you some interview questions. If you have other thoughts or very strongly disagree with the premise behind the article I’d love to hear from you too!

I firmly believe female friendships are some of the most valuable and important, both in terms of holiness and happiness. I am hoping this article can give a voice to brides wanting to rejoice with their best friends and women needing a space to mourn with their soul sisters. There is a wealth of information out there on how to support each other after marriage, but the wedding season itself can be a stressful and trying time for everyone. I’d love to hear how you and your besties navigated those experiences.

Thanks for all your help!


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